Over the last couple of days I’ve been thinking about what it means to simply follow directions and respect the authority of those over you. Rules and guidelines are put in place for a reason–most of the time they are to help you, not harm you. They are to allow you to have the most “fun” without the threat of injury. The adults who placed the guidelines there, usually have a pretty good reason why they did/said what they did/said. It usually makes sense, if you’re just mature enough and patient enough to listen. But, if you’re not, then be prepared for the consequences.
To follow directions:
Direction means: “An instruction or series of instructions for doing or finding something”
As I said, obviously the people “in charge” usually give you instructions and directions because the process of doing something or completing a task has already been planned out and they want to help you, in a positive way, get to the end result.
This is especially frustrating when dealing with adults. Just because you are an adult does not give you permission to do your own thing or to instruct people to not follow the directions (especially when they are in direct conflict to what is being asked)…..
You really are doing your child a disservice when you allow them to dictate (to you) what they want to do. They are 11 years old–they should not get to choose, especially when there’s really only one option for them in the first place.
(I’ll give a little shout-out to Aretha Fra*nklin right now….)
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Take care, TCB
Anyway, respect for authority comes through the realization that leaders/teachers/pastors/ministers/adults are there to help you, NOT control you. And, as parents, it is important to re-enforce that to your children. If you act as if you can “make your own rules” and not follow instructions, then your children will learn the same habit. As a child, they need to know (especially when they might not always appreciate or agree with decisions made by those in authority) that rules/regulations/guidelines are put into place for a reason (and no, leaders/teachers/pastors/ministers/adults are not “out to get you”).
Now I am not advocating blind obedience to those in authority either, as I believe that those who have the rule over us must be held accountable for their actions also, and it is just as important that your children realize that with authority comes responsibility.
Being “in charge” of something does not give you the right to rule over or “control” another–it’s simply a place of leadership where decisions can be made, preferably while consulting with someone else in authority.
God has given each of us a gift. We are not all blessed with the same gifts. He has great variety and has blessed each of us equally….we should use them well to serve one another.
1 Peter 4:10-11
“God has given each of you a gift from his great variety of spiritual gifts. Use them well to serve one another. Do you have the gift of speaking? Then speak as though God himself were speaking through you. Do you have the gift of helping others? Do it with all the strength and energy that God supplies. Then everything you do will bring glory to God through Jesus Christ. All glory and power to him forever and ever! Amen.”
We serve because God has instructed us to do so. We serve out of love. Not out of obligation. We serve expecting nothing in return. We serve (and submit) because God has instructed us to do so. We submit out of love. Not out of punishment. We love because God has instructed us to. And with service, submission, and love comes great responsibility–as the server and the serve-e. As the submitter, and the submissive. And, as the lover and the love-e…..